Good Enough Church
Sunday attendance is sparse these days, which does our sumptuous chapel an injustice. So many treasures of the Episcopal Church in one cozy space: deep crimson carpet, old stone walls, dark wood, assorted saints in stained glass windows, Jesus reigning in heaven from the front, his mother high above the chapel’s entrance.
I’ve come here for twenty years, but that’s nothing in this place. Take Doris: she adored the Jesus window from her very first visit four decades ago, as she told me once. Did she look as magisterial then as she does now? No one remembers, not even old Clarence wearing his bolo tie and pink shorts whatever the weather, in the front pew with his three-day stubble and the unforgettable HA-HA-HA that he unleashes during the sermons. He stoops a bit, like Bob did, seated in the back pew behind me, swimming in his oversized ecru suit, shuffling with the offering plate to the altar despite his ninety years. Across the aisle, tiny Abigail, who late in life married the drummer in a cover band (sixties rock, of course, the music they grew up with) and bitched about his deafening practice sessions in their shoebox house. Next to her was Katharine, the youngest of our “old guard” at fifty-nine, who held Abigail’s hand when the older lady teared up, which was often. In the very back, Marian with the snow white hair, sitting on her walker because her legs couldn’t carry her further.
I wouldn’t say we knew each other, not exactly. True, some of our secrets would seep out from time to time. Once or twice I thought I smelled gin on Abigail’s breath. One Sunday Bob told a story about his childhood in a fundamentalist church; only by “listening between the lines” did we realize he was gay. Occasionally Marian would allude to an adult child in trouble, but she never provided details, just sighs.
In that way she was like the rest of us. Nothing truly intimate: instead we’d natter about grandchildren, the price of meat at the grocery store, our gardens (Katherine used to decorate the altar with her exquisite roses). We’d moan about the church roof and, every now and then, mention God. Each new priest received a warm welcome and a chair at our table during coffee hour, but in the end priests come and go, and we remained.
I could tell this way of doing church was good enough—for me, anyway—when Bob disappeared and his departure punched a hole in my solar plexus, a blow more painful than you’d expect for a back-pew acquaintance. I ached when Abigail vanished as well. Did anyone try to call her? Maybe she couldn’t hear the phone with her husband riffing in the background. Then one day last year the walker wasn’t in the back of the chapel, and we sighed over that too.
Even now, during coffee hour, their names come up. Doris still raves about the brilliant sweaters Abigail knit—one a week, though what she did with them Doris never knew. Clarence booms with laughter when he recalls (but, thankfully, does not retell) Marian’s off-color jokes. We all bemoan the loss of Katharine’s bouquets as we bemoan the loss of Katharine, three months ago, too soon for our taste.
Yet their scents, like the psalms recited at an ancient monastery, have penetrated the walls. I still inhale the waft as I find my pew and hear Clarence whispering his pre-service prayers. Doris clenches my arm and smiles like always, and I see genuine affection though I’m not sure why.
We’ll all leave eventually, all of the old guard, in our own ways. One thing’s for sure: as long as two or three of us show up on Sundays, we’ll slide into our pews, open our bulletins, and take a quick look round for the rest, even those who left our sight years ago, lifetime strangers who found their way into our hearts.
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John Janelle Backman (she/her) writes about gender identity, ancient spirituality, the everyday strangeness of karma, cats, and whatever else comes to mind. Janelle’s work has appeared in The Citron Review, Catapult, the tiny journal, Typehouse, HerStry, and Amethyst Review, among other places. Her essays have made several contest shortlists and earned a few Pushcart nominations. Find her at http://www.backmanwriter.com.